One should never underestimate
the power of discussion. Conversations and open discussions are usually killed
at the altars of religion, politics, and patriotism. The people who wear these
badges are usually the most intolerant and a discussion does not get to prosper
in this vile atmosphere. As I am an ardent advocate of a healthy discussion, I
am waging my war on these badges. Why do we need them at all?
What follows are my views
(reinforced with what I had read, continue to read and with innumerable
discussions that I keep having with friends (and a very vocal daughter and son)
scattered across the globe)
Why am I putting it here? For
each of us to have a look at what someone else is thinking and participate in a
discussion/debate so that the concept of individual thinking gets
polished, hammered, modified, subjected to scrutiny, given alternate views.
Never
to conclude.
Concluding is final and closes
the most beautiful thing that has ever evolved between active minds.
DISCUSSION.
I have said this before, and I
shall say it again.
Discussion
tries to arrive at what is right.
Argument
targets who is right
None of us have anything to prove
to anyone at this point in our life, least of all among ourselves.
So, just indulge me.
What is nationalism or
patriotism?
Is it something tangible?
J.Krishnamurti once said that his main goal is to set a man free. Hence, he
disbanded the Order of the Star in the East (Founded by the Theosophical
Society in 1911, that declared JK as the Head of the Order) in 1929. The speech
he gave while dissolving the order has been a great influence on me personally.
If you want to read that speech, for the first time or for the nth time, the
link is given below.
https://jkrishnamurti.org/about-dissolution-speech
What is special about being an
Indian? Or an American? Or a Bangladeshi? Or “xxxxx”?
Do not we all realize that this
is just a birth lottery? We were born in India and many of us grew up in India.
Some opted to stay, and some opted to leave. I never understood this passionate
obsession with a country. (or a religion for that matter). Why someone who
left India must demonstrate his love and blind faith to the nation and why
someone staying in India can’t criticize the functioning of the nation? After all
what is a nation? An organization that is run by a set of appointed people (or
dictators where applicable). How many of us have stayed in the same job that we
joined when we graduated from college? And what happened when we left our first
organization? Have we become traitors? Do we silence anyone (or encourage
anyone on the other hand) if they speak or mention the first organization that
we worked at/for? What happened when we changed the job a second time, a third
time, or started something of our own, employed people, had people leaving OUR
organization, and proceed to the next? We do not hold (there is no need to is my
point) any special attachment that can drive us to kill or question the
relationships, consider the sanity level, or the loyalty quotient of the
individual who expresses an opinion about the first organization.
I hope I am making some sense and
you guys have not given up already and closing the phone/tab/laptop with a
resigned facepalm.
I shall continue at the risk of
being called names. Let us look at a sport that I associate well with
(parallels can be drawn to IPL if Cricket is to your liking).
Soccer. In Europe.
The Premier League, La Liga,
Bundesliga, Serie A are all followed closely in India too. As a matter of fact,
India is one of their prime markets. Look at the players. They move from one
club to another club seasons after seasons and the fans who loved them in one
club start hating them when they move to a rival club and the fans of the first
and second club start hating them when they move to the third club. Same for
the manager. So, what should they do? Stay in one club till they retire. It is
a rarity like a Paul Scholes or a Ryan Giggs. The astute ones keep moving.
Look at the most famous face of
football.
David Beckham.
From a non-descript Rovers, to
Spurs, to Man U, to Real, to Galaxy, to Milan, to PSG, to making his own team!
I am not deliberately bringing in the national team part
because that, in my opinion, was the millstone he carried around his neck.
England! He kept playing for England in every WC that he could play and never
won a WC medal. Somehow this weighs him a down and even portrays him as a
failure. Same for Messi today – I have heard people say Messi needs a Xavi to
play football. Look at him perceived as miserably failing as an Argentina
player.
The same was said of SRT. The poor
chap was visibly relieved when India won the WC in 2011.
Because he knows that history
will always remember him as a player who never won a winner’s medal for his
nation in the world cup, which pits nations against
nations. IPL brought in a level field where players of the world
could come and play for a substitute-for-a-nation. You call them mercenaries or you call the teams ManU or Delhi Daredevils or Patriots or Bulls, but they
play for a tangible thing called money and when they switch teams, they switch
loyalties and life is far simpler.
What do we call an obsessed fan
who stabbed Monica Seles? What do we call the rabid fans who camped outside
Wayne Rooney’s house when Rooney indicated that he might move to Manchester
City from Manchester United? (that Rooney did not go was due to SAF and his
guile and was also good for his health in short term from those fans). What do
we call the Mafiosi of Medellin who shot Eduardo for his own goal in the 94 WC?
If we are not going to be kind to
them, why do we justify slandering and killing when it comes to nations? A
nation is just a fictional identity.
If I take Czech citizenship
tomorrow (just for an argument) do I become Czech and no longer Indian?
Or should I continue to be a
Czech but Dil Hai Hindustani?
Will any of the options that are
chosen, come to define me differently to the people who have known me all
my/their life?
What, as a human being, if I
continue to be the same?
Does
not that matter? Or rather, should not that alone matter?
Instead of trust in being an
accidental inhabitant of a particular part of this world.
What are the odds of any of us
being born (a horny dad and mom, correct time of the month, the winning sperm,
the receiving egg, X, or Y chromosome)?
Now consider the odds for
surviving childhood and reaching the teens? (Pox, measles, jaundice, typhoid,
dog-bite, accidents, near-hits, cholera, hepatitis A B C or D (or there more?)
heartbreaks 😉)
And now add the chances of
getting a go, to be educated, and if yes, the chances of completing high school
and reaching college?
And if we do reach college, the chances
of graduating
After graduating, landing a few
jobs and surviving to this age with a handful of friends to share these views?
Let me summarize my views here
(for the impatient ones who straightaway jump to the bullet points)
- Nation or nationality is an intangible concept and to me, it only means a document of proof to stay and travel
- We are all global citizens within the difficult prevailing practices
- . If we choose our loyalty to something, it should be born out of our own free will (Chelsea, Porn Videos, Sunny Leone, India, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, 1986 KREC batch), not because of some factor that was imposed on me and in which I do not believe (Country, organization, marriage, customs, culture, Trump, BJP, Nehru….)
Let me close with a favorite
quote from a man I most admire “To observe without
judgment is the highest form of intelligence” It is not easy, and we are
all guilty of sitting on our judgmental chairs and give out our fatwas like
“let us not discuss”
“do this”
“do that”
“that is forbidden”
“This is wrong”
“This is unacceptable”
and so on and so forth
My only request is, please never
stop the discussion. Do not put preconditions to discussions other than these
two. (even these two must be discussed 😉)
Decorum
is non-negotiable.
Respect
for each other is a must.
And for everything else “let us
discuss till we see what is right”; one may individually see what is right and
may not come to an agreement. That is ok.
You stifle a voice; you stifle
the future.
For the good or for the worse!
Choose wisely.