Recently I realized the depth of the rot called Patriarchy.
Yet again.
Just the other day, while discussing with my friends, I corrected one by saying “You want to blame him, but why are you indirectly targeting his mother”.
This was when my friend
decided to hurl this abuse “you son of a whore” at that despicable scum passing
as a human being. My friend’s reply was this.
“Almost all abuses are anti-women. What to do? Anyway, the parents bear responsibility for these vermin.”
Made me think!
Bastard is an abuse.
Why?
Because it says the child is the one whose father is not known. Is that reason enough? Why the identity of the father is important? How does that alone legitimize a child? Does the mother count for nothing? What if the mother wanted only a child, and not that emotional unbearable burden called a husband as the package deal?
A la
Jenny Fields!
I soon realized there is not a SINGLE abuse, that I have been using all my life without even realizing it, that is how the rot sets in, that does not demean a woman in the process.
Across all the languages!
It is like for thousands and thousands of years the
people of the world had unanimously agreed on the syntax for abuse.
Target women!
This is one aspect in which the world had united.
Lennon would be proud.
Mother f***, Sister f***,
son of a bitch, I will f*** your mother/sister/wife/daughter, etc...
It does not just end with
associating them to the act of copulation.
They are the go-to adjective
for anything timid, weak, or cowardly.
Wear bangles – conveys lack
of courage!
Someone, please explain to me
how does this even makes sense?
Who wears the pants in the
house is another.
Seriously!
In today’s unisex dress
code.
Here the women are equally
guilty, at times.
I have seen many a mother
telling her son “Don’t be a sissy”.
“Be a man” is another
example.
All these are commonplace
even when the pain scale acknowledges labor pain as the maximum pain a human
being can endure without losing one’s conscience.
My daughter made me realize
how insensitive we are towards casteism. She told me “One must make a conscious
effort to avoid slurs rooted in casteism, many of which are in our everyday
lingo, that we do not even realize it is a slur”.
I have since made a
conscious effort to remove those words and phrases from my vocabulary.
We must all do the same with
abuses for saving the dignity of the woman. It is possible to abuse someone
without bringing in the womenfolk of his family.
As a matter of fact, this
can be an exercise in creating speech/writing.
I am starting from today.
