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Monday, November 15, 2021

Grief

 A close friend of mine recently lost his mother. He is 66 and his mother was almost 90. 

How does one begin to understand grief? 

Am sure that 10 out of 10 people who called him had said something along these lines, “it is sad, but at the same time isn’t she the lucky one to have passed away so peacefully and quickly? She died the way she wanted to” etc., etc.

Left with no other options I am sure he also consoled himself by echoing the same sentiments. What are the options in front of him?

Could he have her forever?

Could he live forever?

How long is long enough?

How soon is sudden?

Is there a good death?

How does one evaluate the inevitable?

If one has to die someday, how does one evaluate the death?

If someone died without having experienced life or lived to the full potential, do we grieve that death more?

How do we know that death at an old age is a relief?

One relentless march of time is accentuated by a drop in the volume of conversations. We end up speaking less and less with people who are close to us. We strike up interesting conversations with strangers who bring in fresh ideas and fresh perspectives and predictably that stranger also becomes a “stranger” after a while. Is it any surprise that the ones closest to us also end up being a stranger over a period of time?

Does proximity lead to a state of taking it for granted? Can only death make the realization complete?

How do we know that a 90+ had lived one’s life to its full potential and had no ambitions, desires, aspirations, or goals left? How many times have we spoken to them in our life to understand what they need?

We are consumed by our daily lives and convince ourselves that we have provided them all that they need – from our point of view!

We can’t be blamed – we have our lives and the lives of our children.

Have not philosophers and thinkers driven the point home that life moves on and does not linger in the past?

But, is there a present or a future without a past?

Do we know for certain that the 90+ had no regrets when her life ended?

Did she get the apology she deserved?

Did she get the acknowledgment she earned?

Did she get a listener when she wanted to talk?

How often she had to talk when she wanted solitude?

How many compromises did she make, long after they should have been unnecessary?

Did she get to do all that she wanted?

Did she still need someone’s permission to proceed to do certain things?

Did anyone ever ask her what her ambitions were?

Or were people easily convinced when she answered “I need nothing”?

Let us move to the grieving side.

Can a son or a daughter ever accept a parent’s death?

Reconcile, yes.

Learn to live without their presence, yes.

Understand the inevitability, yes.

It is a game one does not win.

Like Richard Bach said, “Is your mission on earth complete? If you are still alive, the answer is no”.

A bit fatalistic. But sadly, true.

One can run through a wide vocabulary and find many verbs to define the state of mind.


Accept – surely NO.


Years after the death, memories will still haunt them.

Isn’t that what memories are meant for?

You won’t be able to discard the physical belongings.

The chair will remain forever empty and unoccupied.

You will not be able to throw the chair away.

Not yet.

Not so soon.

You will not know what to tell your dad.

Whatever you say will be hollow.

You will still say it.

He knows it is hollow too. He will still listen.

The two of you will play this charade for a while.

And then the conversations that suddenly sprang to life, because someone died, will also die, gradually, one sentence less at a time, till it meanders to a painful halt.

Not because you have nothing to say, but because whatever you say is not going to compensate for the loss.

Not for him. Not for you.

Each tragedy is unique. There is no standard operating manual on how to deal with it. Each one finds a way to deal with it, come out of it, and braces oneself for the next, and the next, and the next, till one day you are the next tragedy.

Let the son grieve; on his own terms.

He will call you if he finds you worthy.

Wait for that call. Do not force it on him.

What can you offer?

Other than empty words and readymade phrases.

You can never offer him what he needs.

His mother.




Thursday, July 29, 2021

No Woman No Cry!

           

             -         Hear all through your life phrases like “It is not for you”, “You can’t do this”, “Who do you think you are”


-         Resign to the fact that you will be judged

o   Constantly and continuously, for no fault of yours.


-         The dress you wear defines your character


-         Footsteps behind you make you nervous


-         Bleed every month for 3 to 5 days for 35 years of your life and not breathe a word about the inconvenience

o   Face discrimination within the family and society for associated taboos due to the above mentioned biological fact

o   Suffer the cramps and the pains due to the same


-         Listen frequently that honor and family prestige is placed on your genitals


-         See another person of the same competency (or lower)  draw a different (higher) salary just because of “gender”


-         Carry another life inside you, nurture it, give birth


-         Feed the child – not from a cup, not from a supermarket shopping – by and from yourself


-         Cook three meals a day, almost every day of the year, for 75% of your adult life

o   And listen to comments about the poor quality of the food


-         Get used to not finding a decent restroom while on the road


-         Acknowledge that sexual intercourse will be wielded as a weapon


-         Accommodate and tolerate patriarchy in all its vile versions


-         When people share household chores and call it “helping” you, learn to accept it.

o   And demonstrate that you are grateful for the same

o   Announce and highlight in every social gathering such “noble” acts


-         Get ready to be told by your children that you know nothing

o   Or less than the father.

o   Or the uncles.

o   Or even the neighbors.


-         Even after understanding all such ignominies, treat your daughter different from your son!


The next time when a man finds the urge to do some mansplaining or enters a discussion on women by women uninvited or feels the urge to lecture women about women,  it shall be a good idea to go through this list once.


Bob Marley needed to repeat 8 times “Everything's gonna be all right” in his song asking a woman not to cry.


Trust men to interpret that seminal song to mean “if there is no woman there is no crying in this world”.



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Pic Credit - Pinterest.

 

 

Monday, May 31, 2021

I Swear.................

 Recently I realized the depth of the rot called Patriarchy.

Yet again.

Just the other day, while discussing with my friends, I corrected one by saying “You want to blame him, but why are you indirectly targeting his mother”. 

This was when my friend decided to hurl this abuse “you son of a whore” at that despicable scum passing as a human being. My friend’s reply was this.

“Almost all abuses are anti-women. What to do? Anyway, the parents bear responsibility for these vermin.”

Made me think!

Bastard is an abuse.

Why? 

Because it says the child is the one whose father is not known. Is that reason enough? Why the identity of the father is important? How does that alone legitimize a child? Does the mother count for nothing? What if the mother wanted only a child, and not that emotional unbearable burden called a husband as the package deal? 

A la Jenny Fields!

I soon realized there is not a SINGLE abuse, that I have been using all my life without even realizing it, that is how the rot sets in, that does not demean a woman in the process. 

Across all the languages! 

It is like for thousands and thousands of years the people of the world had unanimously agreed on the syntax for abuse.

Target women!

This is one aspect in which the world had united. 

Lennon would be proud.

Mother f***, Sister f***, son of a bitch, I will f*** your mother/sister/wife/daughter, etc...

It does not just end with associating them to the act of copulation.


They are the go-to adjective for anything timid, weak, or cowardly.

Wear bangles – conveys lack of courage!

Someone, please explain to me how does this even makes sense?

Who wears the pants in the house is another.

Seriously!

In today’s unisex dress code.

Here the women are equally guilty, at times.

I have seen many a mother telling her son “Don’t be a sissy”.

“Be a man” is another example.

All these are commonplace even when the pain scale acknowledges labor pain as the maximum pain a human being can endure without losing one’s conscience.

My daughter made me realize how insensitive we are towards casteism. She told me “One must make a conscious effort to avoid slurs rooted in casteism, many of which are in our everyday lingo, that we do not even realize it is a slur”.

I have since made a conscious effort to remove those words and phrases from my vocabulary.

We must all do the same with abuses for saving the dignity of the woman. It is possible to abuse someone without bringing in the womenfolk of his family.

As a matter of fact, this can be an exercise in creating speech/writing.

I am starting from today.


Illustration of the quote: By the author.

Wednesday, March 3, 2021

Kaleidoscope

As crazy ideas go, this must rank as one of the craziest, if not THE craziest. I once wrote a short story (5 lines in length) and then decided to stretch it for a week and ended up with 7 stories. My friend Natasha (Twitter handle @nuts2406) followed it with 7 stories by her with contrasting titles. She thrives on working within some constraints. I had discussed this in my previous blog. One thing led to another, and soon we were contemplating about writing a poem with each one writing alternate lines. We discarded the poem format as we are not poets. We can’t write prose also, but we were certain that prose is easier than a poem.

 

And so, after some pre-agreements (we shall not walk into the temptation of doing a one-up on the other, etc..) we started this experiment on the 3rd of Feb. We did not know, then, that it would last a month, total up 21k words, drive each one of us completely insane, if we had been living in the same locality we would have probably gone and killed the other.

 

We started, and initially we were lost, we had to delete and rewrite few of the first tweets, but sooner than any of us imagined, we fell into a rhythm. It is strange to find another person whose thinking is so much like yours, the tastes similar and the appetite for adventure equal.

 

It was only after nearly the 70% of the story was done, we discussed on how to proceed and end. Even after that, we had our flashes of brilliant ideas, and the story changed courses multiple times. It was heading towards a timid end, when one of our regular readers was dismayed and we decided to bring in the twist, and that made all the difference.

 

Usually the author (in this case the authors) writes the story. In this incident, we are guilty of only starting it, then the story wrote itself and playing to the gallery made it even more interesting.

 

We enjoyed it thoroughly. In fact, when it ended, we suddenly felt empty.

 

Hope you enjoy reading it.

 

The following threader app gives you a seamless read – you do not have to navigate the labyrinth called Twitter.

 

https://threader.app/conversation/1356893296954658818/8G4RZzEtGS




Tuesday, January 26, 2021

Se7en

I wrote 7 short stories in almost one sitting!

1.  Love

They loved each other.

So, they did not marry each other.

They did not marry anyone else either.

They lived happily ever after.

Footnote: The families of Meenakshi and Magdalene lived happily too.

 

2.  Judiciary

We are short of wood

For the fireplace

Complained the wife.

Here burn this

Said the Judge and gave her the constitution

 

3.  Test

Examiner and I

Give me a three-letter word for hope

Love

Give me a five-letter word for trust

Love

Give me a six-letter word for future

Love

You fail the test

I know, but you will fail in life!

 

4.  Janus

Agenda for the day

Morning – preside over inter-caste marriage

Afternoon – Dalit upliftment lecture

Evening – all religion prayer

Night – feed the daughter who is locked in.

 

5.  Pet

Ah! The stress of keeping a pet!

Had to wake him early in the morning.

Give him the feeling of leading the way

Repeat the same late in the night

 

 

It is tough being a dog!

 

6.  Dignity / Humanity

Will you buy this book from me?

I need the money to feed my family

Said the desperate professor.

I would love to read this again

Bought the illiterate man!

 

 

7.  Care

Am new to town

And its language

Was taught by my friend to say

You look wonderful

May I take you to dinner

My 80-year-old neighbor will get from me

Today, what he deserves from his son

But did not get.


Interestingly, I penned it as a thread on Twitter, and it looks like it will lead to another 7 stories by one of my friends as well as two-authors writing one paragraph each to try out a story too. Keep watching here

The twitter thread



  


Pic Courtesy: The Business Journals

Friday, January 1, 2021

Books Read in 2020

Hello everybody, a happy 2021 to everyone.

Continuing the habit, here is a list of books I read in 2020.

1.    The Chalk Man (Fiction) by C. J. Tudor; It was a fast read. That is all that can be said. Too many twists, too many diversions, too convoluted, no, make it unnecessarily convoluted. Helping my decision to stay away from thrillers and fiction in general. Kept you engaged and started to fall apart in the later stages. Need to move into some serious non-fiction.

a.    Started on 1st January and Finished on 2nd January.

b.    Recommended by Sayantan Ghosh. Well, he did not personally recommend it, I picked it up from his tweets.

2.    The Return (Non-Fiction) by Hisham Matar; A must-read for everyone. That I was reading it during the horrific student riots, with state-sponsored terrorism, in India made it more relevant and more difficult. One who Is used to crying easily, I was filling buckets during this book. Earmarked few paintings, to be seen during my next visit to the UK. Those descriptions of the two paintings, in the chapter called Maximilian, are top-notch. What dictators do and how ordinary people suffer. We have read it so many times and yet this HITS you. That a man so rich and powerful, who could walk into the foreign office, talk to ministers, international organizations, talk personally to the son of the dictator can fail sends a shiver down your spine. If such powerful people are finally powerless, what about the ordinary, the poor, and the unrepresented? A gem of a book. Must be part of compulsory reading in every school! In the past, I used to mention that every father-son must-see “Life is beautiful” and now I will add “and read The Return”.

a.    Started on 2nd January and finished on 8th January

b.    Recommended by Sayantan Ghosh. Well, he did not personally recommend it, I picked it up from his tweets.

3.    Touching the void (Non-Fiction) by Joe Simpson; The call of the mountains can’t be ignored for long. The story itself was haunting enough. And when I came to know that the author penned it almost immediately based on his harrowing experience, I could not resist the urge. Having taken to the mountains at a much later stage in my life, I am still not familiar with many mountain-specific terms like col, crevasse, moraine, belay, baseplate, fluting, etc... To get to the heart of the story unfolding, it was necessary to keep the glossary handy to refer to. Ed Viesturs was considerate enough to give a glossary at the end of his book.  The alternating regular font and Italian font both in the first-person narrative is a powerful tool. You get to see into each one’s mind. Never once you reach a stage where you blame Simon and you realize why the book was dedicated to him in the first place. Despite knowing what happened the book was nail-biting stuff. Saw the 2003 documentary based on the book immediately after finishing the book. A wonderful documentary staying true to the book.

a.    Started on 8th January and finished on 11th January.

b.    Recommended by The Guardian

4.    Gandhi before India (Non-Fiction) by Ramachandra Guha; All along I thought I am fully aware of everything about Gandhi, and then I end up reading this book. There is so much about this man that I had not known, and now, after knowing, my respect for him continues to grow. For a while it was fashionable to demean Gandhi, to appear intellectual, by quoting (with half knowledge) how he was mean to his wife and his son. That serendipity plays a major role in life is amply demonstrated in the book. If his father had not died young if his brother was not involved in a scam with the palace if he had been more successful in Bombay or Rajkot in his practice if the SA government had yielded early on …. So many ifs and they end by defining one’s life. A lovely read. The research behind is scary to even contemplate, leave alone attempt. Full marks to Mr.Guha for his erudition, his obsession, and his knowledge.

a.    Started on 12th January and finished on 8th February

b.    Recommended by Ujval

5.    Celestial Bodies (Fiction) by Jokha Alharthi; This seems to be the year of Sayantan Ghosh! 3 of the first 5 books of the year are his recommendations! Amazon screwed up big time again. Similar to my experience with “Bad Blood” last year, this copy had 20 pages twice and as a result, I was left dangling at page 147, very much like Abdallah in the book, and had to wait for the missing pages. After getting the missing pages, I completed this book in about 3 days. The book was too complicated for me. While there were wonderful passages and some strong statements, the family tree was a mess. All love stories ended in tragedies, but then is this not what love is all about? Was a decent read but certainly not going to be on any lists of mine.

a.    Started on 8th February and finished on 17th November (after a stop on 14th Feb, resumed on 14th November with the missing pages delivered by a dear friend – I had to start from the beginning)

b.    Recommended by Sayantan Ghosh.

6.    Powerful (Non-Fiction) by Patty McCord; So fundamentally correct, you are left wondering why it is so difficult to practice. Reminded me of Neutron Jack, who was famous for firing the bottom 20% each year. Few of her observations are spot on. That there is no continuously talented person in most fields. Either they exhaust their usefulness soon, or simply that the business grows faster than their capacity to adapt and grow along with the need demanded. Also,  a misfit in one organization can prosper in another. My take is, that most people stay on and the organizations allow them to stay on, as it is a good compromise for both involved. Can the HR name the top three revenues, top five competitors, and the disruptive technology in the market to your product? Why just the HR – this must be a test for each employee. A refreshing book

a.    Started on 15th Feb and finished on 22nd Feb

b.    Recommended by Mihir

7.    Pachinko (Fiction) by Min Jin Lee; Epic in its scope and so relevant in the current world, with the rising of right-wing and misplaced nationalism. The periodic tragedies reminded me of The Kite Runner. The author has a macabre sense of slipping in the most profound tragedy in one closing sentence of a chapter as if a mere footnote. The life of every immigrant, of every person of one nationality living in another world, is always the same. The stark reality of ethnic Koreans under the Japanese has always been a matter of intrigue, and this book answers it as brutally as possible. Would strongly recommend it.

a.    Started on 22nd Feb and finished on 5th Mar

b.    Recommended by Mihir

8.    Leonardo da Vinci Biography (Non-Fiction) by Walter Isaacson; If someone had told me years ago that a biography would keep me so engrossed, I would have laughed. But, not now. At the end of the book, I am not sure who should I admire most – Leonardo or Walter? All right, that was meant to be rhetoric. Walter has a powerful way of writing. I am sure I will be equally awestruck by Einstein and anyone else that he had chosen to write about. This book is really a must-read for anyone who appreciates a well-researched book. Biography of contemporary persons is simple but to write a biography of someone who lived 600 years ago, based on research material, and to write so authoritatively about art, at best a subjective matter, is an impressive task. The conclusion chapter is so beautifully composed, allowing you to go back, in your fresh memories, to various parts of the book. I will soon be buying a T-shirt with the Vitruvian man and a personalized one with the statement “Describe the tongue of the woodpecker”. And the notes section is as much a treasure as the book is. This link reads like a thriller mystery all by itself https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2010/07/12/the-mark-of-a-masterpiece

a.    Started on 6th March and finished on 25th March

b.    Recommended by Ujval.

9.    Fragile Things (Fiction) by Neil Gaiman; I wish I could say the book, the collection of stories/poems/essays was a great read. Alas! No.  Other than “A Study in Emerald” and “Sunbird”, most of the other stories end up a disappointment.

a.    Started on 26th March and finished on 14th April

b.    Self-recommended – Railway station waiting time purchases 

10. Bridge of Clay (Fiction) by Marcus Zusak; In the typical Zusak’s style, a slow burner. Takes time to come to grips with the proceedings. The alternating chapters between the past and the present are woven beautifully. His gift for short sentences is amazing. The chapters all fit like a perfect jigsaw puzzle at the end. He has a way with death. And some impossible moments. A bit dragging at places. But hats off to his vision and execution. One sentence will stay with me from this book “the body was weightless; the coffin weighed a tonne”. Not meant for light reading. A satisfactory read at the end.

a.    Started on 14th April and finished on 5th May

b.    Self-recommended

11. The last days of night (Fiction) by Graham Moore; The first chapter starts with the line “On the day that he would first meet Thomas Edison” and the last chapter some 350 pages later starts with “On the day that he would last see Thomas Edison”. Proof that you just do not sit and write a book. There is so much research, painstaking details, and planning that go into the book. It is a novel. But could well have been real. Three dominant main characters besides some of the imposing names through the history and three short sentences that capture their essence. “Tesla was happiest when he was working. Westinghouse was happiest when he’d finished. Edison would be happiest only when he’d won.” A lovely book and a racy read, such a relief after the slow crawling Bridge of Clay.

a.    Started on 6th May and finished on 9th May.

b.    Recommended by Mihir.

12. The hundred-year-old man who climbed out of the window and disappeared (Fiction) by Jonas Jonasson; I have never laughed this much since Catch-22. What a brilliant book. This was lying with me since 2016! Impossible to list the hilarious episodes are single any one event out.  “It should carry a health warning for spouses who are easily irritated by the sounds of helpless chortling” by Irish Times is spot on. Any person in your company will conclude that you have gone insane. A wonderful find. Usually, when books alternate between the past and present between chapters, I usually find one part to be more interesting than the other and often yearn for the relevant chapter to arrive soon. This was an exceptional exception. Both narratives were fantastic.

a.    Started on 11th May and finished on 12th May

b.    Recommended by none. Though my daughter had been asking me to read ever since she read it, while the book was, ironically, a gift to me on my birthday. So, let the thanks go to Iveta in equal measure.

13. Upheaval (Non-Fiction) by Jared Diamond; Lived up to its expectations. A challenging topic made it easy to read and appreciate. The chapters dedicated to the USA towards the end are spot on. Details about Finland, Australia, Chile, Japan, and Indonesia are stunning, though we know much about Germany. A compelling read, though at times you sensed that he was recording the same messages repeatedly. As much as the book is interesting, the question “Will people ignore the obvious?” in the final pages rings so true, as leaders currently are doing exactly that. We learn nothing from history, has never been told so openly. A wonderful book.

a.    Started on 12th May and finished on 31st May

b.    Recommended by – I do not recall – probably Mihir or Ujval or self-choice.

14. Chronicle of a death foretold (Fiction) by Gabriel Garcia Marquez; A slim volume, chosen mainly to take a break from non-fiction. GCM weaves his magic again. Dreams, the story told in the very first line, and the tantalizing aspect of whether Nasar was guilty is left hanging even after the story ends. Only a great storyteller can make a story this simple. 

a.    Started on 31st May and finished on 31st May

b.    Recommended by – The author was introduced by Murali, so let us attribute this book to him

15. Born to run (Non-Fiction) by Bruce Springsteen; How can a guy in his teens in the 80s not be bewitched by The Boss. I wish I could say the book was a breeze or a dream come true. Sadly, no. He writes well and somehow it felt like you were reading his diary. Maybe Walter Isaacson spoiled me in the field of chronicling one’s life. You could relate to his life and you knew most of his songs. Somehow the book was dragging, and I had half a mind to drop it and move on to the next book on more than one occasion. Nearly the 40-day reading period tells the story too. Maybe it just did not click with me.

a.    Started on 1st June and finished on 10th July

b.    Recommended by Ujval

16. Malevolent Republic (Non-Fiction) by K.S.Komireddi; I used to read two or three books simultaneously when I was young. But discontinued the practice. I am glad I made an exception this time. Even before I finished book number 15, I looked into this book and started to read the introduction and did not put the book down till I finished it. Brings you to tears by making you look at what the politicians have done to this country, my country. Only Shastri comes clean in recording 73 years of Indian politics. He has spared none. Everyone is taken to the laundry and hung dry. One can’t call him pro BJP or pro Cong or pro anyone. He talks for India. Ruthlessly, unflinchingly and honestly. Just by a coincidence, I shared a quote with my brother on the same day that said, “Honesty has a power that few can handle”. Let me see how many can handle the honesty of Mr. Reddi. People like Reddi give me hope. May their breed continue to multiply.

a.    Started on 12th June and finished on 14th June

b.    Recommended by Ujval.

17. Gun Island (Fiction) by Amitav Ghosh; Did not realize that I started the book on the birthday of the author. A highly relevant and timely tale. Bengal folklore, marine mammals’ migration, immigrant crisis, and climate change are all woven so perfectly into a gripping tale. Never boring or slow. It was a relief after the slow-moving Born to Run prior to this. A lovely book and will certainly recommend it to others too.

a.    Started on 11th July and finished on 12th July

b.    Recommended by self.

18. Scoop (Fiction) by Evelyn Waugh; What a lovely book! There is something about British authors and humor. Effortless, bizarre, and incredibly funny. Situational comedy and preposterous situations. Weird gets weirder and all the while there is a tongue-in-cheek commentary on the atrociousness all around. This was in the 1930s and is still relevant today. Even descriptions are singularly so funny, for example, “the immense trees stood, singly and in groups about the park, had suffered, some from ivy, some from lightning, some from various malignant disorders that vegetation is heir to, but all principally from old age.”

a.    Started on 12th July and finished on 17th July

b.    Recommended by Akshaya

19. Early Indians (Non-Fiction) by Tony Joseph; Mixed feelings about the book. Throughout its length, the book had a feel of an academic journal. Mr. Harari made history writing a daunting task for anyone else today, unfortunately. Nevertheless, an important book for blowing away a few of the myths that the current Sanghis hold dear to them and their misplaced ideology. An important book, I just wish that it had been a little easier to read. Can’t resist thinking “Absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence” – but that would be unfair to most archeology and history.

a.    Started on 20th July and finished on 26th July

b.    Recommended by self

20. How to lose a country – The 7 steps from democracy to dictatorship (Non-Fiction) by Ece Temelkuran; Though the book is clearly an outrage on seeing the degeneration of her own country, what is chilling is how the same template is being used by nations around the globe. And when you see current headlines reflecting the cautions she had espoused, but ignored, your heart bleeds that much more. The book impressed me so much, I coupled my rant and the review of the book into this blog - http://vkmagus.blogspot.com/2020/07/when-did-you-become-so-cruel_58.html

a.    Started on 26th July and finished on 29th July

b.    Recommended by self

21. The little book of cosmology (Non-Fiction) by Lyman Page; I am certainly wiser than what I was before I started to read this book. But to expect a 110-page book makes me wise and totally comfortable with the full concept and as knowledgeable as those who have spent their lifetime on understanding Cosmos is a bit arrogant, if not far-fetched. With a little background in science, it is easy to understand the vast universe and the current stage and probably from where it all started. Mr. Page explains most concepts with a simpler example to make it easy but certain concepts are so intricate; it is not possible to simplify them any further.

a.    Started on 31st July and finished on 8th August

b.    Recommended by samba

22. 1944 – FDR and the year that changed history (Non-Fiction) by Jay Winik; I am no stranger to Holocaust and this book gently reminded me that what I know about the holocaust is far far less than what is there to learn about. The narrative of the book is clever too, it keeps jumping forward and backward while the anchor remains Auschwitz all the time. The D day landing and atrocities of Auschwitz were so fantastically described that it made me simply sob unabashedly. (I had been to Auschwitz- Birkenau seven times already). Even though the book is written to laud the single-minded determination of FDR it categorically holds him to account for his inaction on the holocaust. A telling commentary is how he could have made the war all about humanity (like emancipation of civil war) instead of just defeating the Nazis. In hindsight, it is always easy to be cleaver and I would rather blame the state department and McCloy more responsible than FDR. The following names must be recorded for posterity to save what little they could save – Edward Schulte, Gerhard Riegner, Stephen Wise, Peter Bergson, Jan Karski, Vrba & Wetzler, Henry Morgentau, John Pehle, DuBois, and heaven knows how many more. A compulsory read to anyone who values history.

a.    Started on 9th August and finished on 23rd August

b.    Recommended by Mihir

23. On Tyranny – twenty lessons from the twentieth century (Non-Fiction) by Timothy Snyder; Once again, an uncharacteristic move of reading another book before I finish the previous book. No regrets. A short read but pure dynamite. In my opinion, this is a perfect book to follow up from Ece Temelkuran’s how to lose a country. Powerful short sentences like “If none of us is prepared to die for freedom, then all of us will die under tyranny.” pepper the book. Lovely read and most relevant.

a.    Started on 12th August and Finished on 12th August

b.    Recommended by Ujval.

24. Good Omens (Fiction) by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman; Only NG and TP can write a book like this. Armageddon on a Saturday, the four bike riders of apocalypse and a misplaced Antichrist along with a modern-day Angel and Demon. Sumptuous stuff. Hilarious. Lines like “You start thinking: it can’t be a great cosmic game of chess, it has to be just very complicated Solitaire”

a.    Started on 24th August and finished on 28th August

b.    Recommended by – Any book by NG is deemed as a reference by Ameya

25. The white book (Fiction) by Han Kang; Could have been named a weird book instead. After Vegetarian, every other book of this author will fall flat, but this had fallen way far below. More a diary noting than a novel. Two pages on Sand and Breath were outstanding, but overall a disappointment.

a.    Started on 29th August and finished on 29th August

b.    Recommended by self

26. I won’t give you a leg up Mr. Death (Fiction) by Arunabha Sengupta; The book was gifted to me by my colleague who happens to be the brother of the author. There is this hidden tendency to downplay known people or Indian authors and I fell victim to that. Never too late. That I happened to pick up the book after Chadwick Boseman’s death and after one of my friends recently underwent radiation therapy for cheek oral cavity is certainly a coincidence to marvel at. The doctor author has used all his expertise in spinning a yarn around the emperor of all maladies. What is creditworthy is that he has shown it from the patient’s side too. A satisfactory read and the author’s observations and the effortless capturing of the scenery in powerful words that bring to your eyes the image is impressive.

a.    Started on 30th August and finished on 4th September.

b.    Presented by Aditya as the author is his brother. So, it counts as his recommendation.

27. Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance – an inquiry into values (Non-Fiction) by Robert. M. Pirsig; Having read this book way back in the 90s and having no recollection of it whatsoever, it was clear that I had not read the book properly the first time around. The second reading served a better understanding of the book. The writing style is pedantic and at times testing your capacity to stay focused, but you finish the book with great admiration for the man and his unflinching honesty to Quality. I do feel, however, that future generations may miss on this book’s gifts as the writing style could be found a bit tedious.

a.    Started on 5th September and finished on 18th October

b.    Recommended by my first boss R.V.Dalvi

28. One part woman (Fiction) by Perumal Murugan; His prose is haunting. He effortlessly paints the village life right in front of your eyes. Converting his novels to films should be easy. The trauma of being a child-less mother/father in a village setting is beautifully penned. The playfulness and seriousness are distributed in a way that resembles our normal lives. Powerful writing. And an ending that is as suspenseful as a whodunit. When you see what the couple had to go through, you feel like you should take a machete to society. Fantastic read.

a.    Started on 18th October and finished on 19th October

b.    Recommended by Naren

29. Time stops at Shamli and other stories (Fiction) by Ruskin Bond; A lovely collection of stories. The beautiful ending of The room of many colors, the funny Masterji, the loving scoundrel in He said it with Arsenic, the supernatural Eyes of the cat, the fantastically funny The tiger in the house and the hauntingly mesmeric Tiger Tiger burning bright were all fabulous. Bond writes so well about animals, he could have been our Wilbur Smith, if he had persisted in that area. 

a.    Started on 20th October and finished on 22nd October

b.    Recommended by Self

30. The Anarchy (Non-Fiction) by William Dalrymple; You feel cheated when the book suddenly is over and all the remaining pages are notes (that you have been referring to during the reading), bibliography, and credits. A well-researched marvelous book. The intrigue, the double-crossing, the scheming, and the fact that there was a very thin line between what could have been and what eventually was are all beautifully chronicled. The opening line is a stunner and the epilogue pack a punch. The research and the details are sheer jaw drop. A mandatory reading to anyone who wants to know how the British raj began. The one irritant was the mention of values mentioned in the passages as “in today’s currency” at the bottom of most pages. One simple chart in the notes or at the beginning would have been enough.

a.    Started on 22nd October and finished on 2nd November

b.    Recommended by Mihir

31. A gentleman in Moscow (Fiction)  by Amor Towles; It is easy to make someone angry, someone sad, someone cry but try to make them smile and laugh. It must be the most singularly difficult task unless you happen to be Amor Towles. The principle of Chekov’s gun had been repeated ad infinitum and we all know how relevant it is. This book clinches it completely and staging it in Russia, Moscow to be precise, is a genius at work. How much one laughs through the book and how effortlessly the author makes you cry unabashedly. And Casablanca, so beautifully woven into the novel. I have already bought, even before I finished, two copies of this book in the Czech language for my two dear friends as their Christmas gifts. So, Mr. Towles, thank you for making me laugh and cry last week, and the usually stoic, not a flicker of emotion on their faces Czechs will be reduced to the same in January 2021.

a.    Started on 2nd November and finished on 8th November

b.    Recommended by Bill Gates

32. Lady Windermere’s fan (Fiction) by Oscar Wilde; What a delightful little book. Peppered with his most notable quotes. Lovely read. It is not possible to divide people into good and bad. It takes a lifetime to understand someone fully, if at all.

a.    Started on 17th November and finished on 17th November

b.    Recommended by Akshaya

33. Luka and the fire of life (Fiction) by Salman Rushdie; What a magician Salman is! P2C2E (Process too complicated to explain), M2C2D (Machines too complicated to Describe), Jos (Jo Hua, Jo Hai, and Jo Aiga) towns of Kahani, Khwab, Rivers of Time, Discarded Gods, Rats, OTTs, a dog named Bear, a bear named dog, Shah of Blah, Nobody, Nonsense – I was reduced to seven-year-old chewing up my nails in excitement, even all the time knowing the story will only end well. A master storyteller. A timely read too as it solved my choice of a Xmas gift to a southpaw in the family.

a.    Started on 17th November and finished on 19th November

b.    Recommended by Akshaya

34. Supreme Whispers (Non-Fiction) by Abhinav Chandrachud; A nice book on the intricate workings of the supreme court. Wonderful anecdotes and the author has been unbiased even while covering his own grandfather. A book worth reading to see how the supreme court had evolved over the years and the constant tug of war between the politicians and the judges. Rather disappointing to see that not many judges have stood up to what was right.

a.    Started on 19th November and finished on 21st November

b.    Recommended by self, airport browsing.

35. The innovators (Non-Fiction) by Walter Isaacson; Mr. Isaacson can make even a manual on root canal treatment gripping and unputdownable. The research that goes into such works is stunning to even contemplate. A character description of just one player, roughly a paragraph long, must involve a full day of research and fact-checking. A great documentation of how computing evolved, the role played by the military, the visionaries who could see the future as well as the humility and the arrogance of many of them. Fortunately, the humble ones outnumber the arrogant ones. A mandatory reading to anyone who appreciates science and how so many people made life easy for us.

a.    Started on 22nd November and finished on 29th November

b.    Recommended by Ujval

36. Thurber Country (Fiction) by James Thurber; Who needs an introduction or even a review for Thurber. Was an absolute delight as most of his books are. But I traced a bit of misogyny which could have been par for the 40s and 30s but found it jarring today. Statements like “Shall I make a drink for you” I asked the lady. “No” she replied in a voice that corked the bottles! Fantastic.

a.    Started on 30th November and finished on 3rd Dec

b.    Recommended by self

37. How I came to know fish (Fiction) by Ota Pavel; Impulsive shopping. Prague, Czech life and Nazi occupation was enough to bait this fish. A lovely little book. Hilarious anecdotes. Unlikely kindness from unexpected quarters. The descent into madness. Glad I found it and read it. While the book has been fortunately not depressing, thanks to the ability of the Czechs to laugh things off, the reference to Massacre of Lidice exposed once again the barbarity of the Germans.

a.    Started and finished on 4th Dec

b.    Recommended by self

38. The age of surveillance capitalism – the fight for a human future at the new frontier of power (Non-Fiction) by Shoshana Zuboff; A powerful, relevant book. Glad I took it up despite its imposing size and subject matter. She writes from her heart. It is a miracle that Google and Facebook did not knock her off before she finished this book. Who decides is authority and who decides who decides is power. Just a sample of what her depth and grasp of the topic are. And towards the end, she says this “It is not Ok for every move, emotion, utterance, and desire to be cataloged, manipulated, and then sued to surreptitiously herd us through the future tense for the sake of someone else’s profit” A wonderful book and a must-read.

a.    Started on 5th Dec and finished on 24th Dec

b.    Recommended by The Guardian

39. Skorzeny; The most dangerous man in Europe (Non-Fiction) by Charles Whiting; A small book that is a one-sit read. A man whose life is the proverbial larger than life. Daring rescues, bluffs, and romancing Eva Peron! – It is a pity that he did not write that book soon after the war while he still had a choice, but people who are self-centered would only care about what they did and not about what events needed to be said to let the world know what had actually transpired. Given my dislike to Churchill, if his book had been published and exposed Churchill, Ahhhhhh… life is so unfair!

a.    Started on 25th Dec and finished on 25th Dec

b.    Recommended (and gifted) by Pavel Sedivy

40. The remains of the day (Fiction) by Kazuo Ishiguro; What a beautiful language and what a story he has weaved. Now I am dying to see the film to see what Mr. Hopkins has done to Mr. Stevens. A lovely book, and most wonderful language reminiscent of P.G. Wodehouse and Maugham. A lovely way to end the year.

a.    Started on 25th Dec and finished on 29th December

b.    Recommended by self

So, that is my summary of the books I had read this last year. See you again on 1st of January 2022, with a list of books that I managed to read during this year.