- Hear all through your life phrases like “It is not for you”, “You can’t do this”, “Who do you think you are”
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Resign to the fact that you will be judged
o
Constantly and continuously, for no fault of
yours.
-
The dress you wear defines your character
-
Footsteps behind you make you nervous
-
Bleed every month for 3 to 5 days for 35
years of your life and not breathe a word about the inconvenience
o
Face discrimination within the family and
society for associated taboos due to the above mentioned biological fact
o
Suffer the cramps and the pains due to the
same
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Listen frequently that honor and family
prestige is placed on your genitals
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See another person of the same competency (or
lower) draw a different (higher) salary
just because of “gender”
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Carry another life inside you, nurture it,
give birth
-
Feed the child – not from a cup, not from a
supermarket shopping – by and from yourself
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Cook three meals a day, almost every day of
the year, for 75% of your adult life
o
And listen to comments about the poor quality
of the food
-
Get used to not finding a decent restroom
while on the road
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Acknowledge that sexual intercourse will be
wielded as a weapon
-
Accommodate and tolerate patriarchy in all
its vile versions
-
When people share household chores and call
it “helping” you, learn to accept it.
o
And demonstrate that you are grateful for the
same
o
Announce and highlight in every social
gathering such “noble” acts
-
Get ready to be told by your children that
you know nothing
o
Or less than the father.
o
Or the uncles.
o
Or even the neighbors.
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Even after understanding all such ignominies,
treat your daughter different from your son!
The
next time when a man finds the urge to do some mansplaining or enters a
discussion on women by women uninvited or feels the urge to lecture women
about women, it shall be a good idea to
go through this list once.
Bob
Marley needed to repeat 8 times “Everything's gonna be all right” in his song
asking a woman not to cry.
Trust
men to interpret that seminal song to mean “if there is no woman there is no crying
in this world”.
🤦
Very touching. It's the truth we all know but do nothing to correct. Shame on us 'men'.
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....." I would also add that in society it's the father whose name gets mentioned not the mother's who carries, feeds ... Really sorry & I am not crying , obviously
A little step, one step at a time, can still make a difference in the long run. Let us do what we can and not be disappointed if women are cynical today.
ReplyDeleteEven after understanding all such ignominies, treat your daughter different from your son!
ReplyDelete- Get used to not finding a decent restroom while on the road
These are really gems more with reference to Indian context. Former i practiced without bias based on gender later surely not in my hands so far India is concerned but now improved a lot lot.....
All said and done, well, it will take another century to give equality in true sense including the so called developed world
Agree totally and sadly
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