Sunday, August 20, 2017

We hurt those we love!


You are walking your dog; it gets provoked by many dogs along the way; it holds its head but after being pushed to its limit, reacts, often by jumping towards one of those mutts and pulling on the leash.
You do not administer your, misplaced, wrath on the provocateur but on your hapless dog.
It gets pulled back, given a few harsh words and reprimanded and brought back home.

The story repeats the next time and the next time.

Your two children end up fighting. How often have you been completely neutral? Haven’t you been guilty of lecturing the softer of the two, more often.

The story repeats the next time and the next time.

You have a toxic colleague at work. Who brings out the worst in the most decent of all people. Time spent in his/her presence increases the toxic level of your system beyond what it is designed to handle. How do you detox?

Elementary, Dr. Watson! You take it out on a docile friend. Who does not deserve it nor does he/she understand why the shit is falling on his/her head.


The story repeats the next time and the next time.

Your mother and your wife has a standoff. It is no rocket science to understand who gets lectured, even if the facts are as clear as the day.


The story repeats the next time and the next time.

There is a clear act of misdemeanour in a public place. Your husband/wife takes a stand and exposes it and fights it out. Creates a scene. The miscreant walks away, the act is forgotten, the crowd disperses after having its quota of free entertainment. The real story begins after this. The husband/wife starts to receive a lecture on “what was the need for you to be a hero, did not you make a fool of yourself, what did you solve today, etc. etc. …”


The story repeats the next time and the next time.

There must be some unique strain in our DNA that makes us treat those who we love (or those who love us) in a cruel way.



Come to think of it, it is quite possible that we start loving someone so that we can hurt them one day!



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